I came across a web site the other day that struck me as an OXYMORON to say the least!
The web site is named http://www.proudtobecanadian.ca/threads/ubbthreads.php?Cat=$Cat
I’ve read through a lot of their rhetoric about how “marriage” is some holy’er that thou ideal of a traditional societal support structure and should ONLY be allowed to unite one man with one women. What an IGNORANT view of “marriage” in this day and age. A “marriage” between any two people, no matter how one chooses to label it, is what the two people in the marriage choose to make of it. Nothing more, nothing less!
To demonstrate the ignorance behind the anti-gay marriage debate, picture the following in your minds eye:
Take two couples:
1. a man and a woman
2. a man and a man (or a woman and a woman)
Firstly: remove the sexuality component of all members of both couples (to be re-addressed later) then evaluate how each couple will be a positive or negative influence on society.
1. Both couples have chosen their perspective partners to build a life together with in their perspective communities.
2. Both couples have ambitions to be good neighbors in their perspective communities.
3. Both couples have hopes and dreams of what they would like to accomplish in their lives.
4. Both couples are compassionate toward the suffering of others and those suffering around them.
5. Both couples know the difference between “right” from “wrong” and between “good” and “evil” given the opportunity to reason with their hearts.
6. Both couples have goals to be upstanding members of society.
7. Both couples wish to help make their communities the best they can be.
8. Both couples (albeit maybe reluctantly) will pay their fair share of taxes (provincially, federally)
9. Both couples will patronize local restaurants and businesses.
10. Both couples will likely vacation together somewhere in the world.
11. Both couples, if called upon, will serve their country to the best of their ability. (eg. jury duty etc.)
12. Both couples will abide by, to the best of their ability, the laws of the land.
13. Both couples, if blessed with the opportunity to raise a family through child birth and/or adoption, will do their very best to raise well adjusted, capable and contributing members of society.
14. Both couples will contribute valuable influences on the culture of their perspective communities.
15. Neither couple aims to hurt or be a burden on the community in which they live and likely plan to live for the long term.
Now add the sexuality component of both members of both couples back into the picture and re-evaluate how their SEXUALITY in any influences a positive or negative change in society.
1. Both couples, behind closed bedroom doors and as consenting adults, engage in sexual activities of one sort or another. The sexual spectrum ranges from no sex at all to whatever each consenting adult of each couple agree too. Depending on how enlightened the reader is, the possibilities are endless. To assume anything of either couple is unjustified and inappropriate considering whatever does or doesn’t happen is between two consenting adults and in their bedroom NOT yours. It is or should be of no concern to the community or the people in it, as long as what they (either couple) do sexually behind closed doors does not harm either one of them or anyone else.
Based on the above information, the sexuality of an individual has NO place in the discussions of positive and negative influences on a society. The way individuals contribute, conduct themselves, and more or less live their lives within their community determines the positive and negative influences they have on society.
Allowing both couples to “marry” within society only strengthens the societal support structure, it does NOT weaken it!